Trying to conceive (TTC) comes with a flood of advice — from family, forums, and even well-meaning friends. And one of the most persistent questions is: “What’s the best position to get pregnant?”

We’ve got good news: conception isn’t nearly as complicated (or acrobatic) as the internet might make it seem. In this blog, we’ll gently debunk the most common myths, explain what actually matters, and share realistic, evidence-based tips to help you feel more confident and calm on your journey.

Do Positions Affect Conception?

Technically, no single position has been scientifically proven to increase the chances of getting pregnant. Sperm are powerful swimmers — they can travel against gravity, through cervical mucus, and all the way up to the fallopian tubes with no help from “legs in the air” or any one sexual position.

That said, some positions may help sperm be deposited closer to the cervix — for example, missionary or doggy style. These are often recommended for comfort and closeness, but it’s not a requirement.

The real truth? Any position that results in ejaculation inside the vagina can lead to pregnancy.

Myths vs. Facts About TTC Positions

Let’s clear up a few popular myths that can add unnecessary stress and pressure to something that should feel loving and natural.

These myths often come from outdated ideas — or wishful thinking. And while some couples find comfort in trying certain techniques (like propping up with a pillow), it’s important to know that your chances of getting pregnant don’t depend on strict routines or rituals.

👉 Need reassurance? Our blog on Sperm Leakage After Insemination helps clear up another common concern many TTC couples share.

What Science Says: The Sperm’s Journey

Here’s what actually happens during conception:

After ejaculation, millions of sperm are released into the vagina, and within seconds to minutes, the strongest swimmers begin making their way through the cervix toward the uterus. This journey is entirely powered by the sperm themselves — gravity doesn’t matter. They move using whip-like tail motions and are supported by the body’s natural environment.

Once inside the uterus, gentle uterine contractions help guide them along. From there, only a few hundred make it to the fallopian tubes — out of the millions that started the race.

If an egg is present (typically released during ovulation), fertilisation may occur at the ampulla — the widest part of the fallopian tube. This meeting usually happens within 12 to 24 hours of ovulation.

Even if you’re lying flat, standing up, or on top, none of this changes. Sperm don’t fall out — the ones that don’t make it through the cervix are either washed out naturally or weren’t motile enough to continue. Curious about this part? You might like our guide on Sperm Leakage After Insemination.

The real deciding factors?

• Ovulation timing
• Sperm health and motility
• Cervical mucus quality
• Uterine support

If you’re not sure when to try, our Best Time to Inseminate for Conception guide walks you through how to spot your most fertile days. And for even more context, we’ve broken down How Long Sperm Can Survive in the Vagina — because the timing of insemination matters more than many people realise.

What Does Make a Difference

Instead of focusing on sexual position, here’s where your energy is better spent:

• Timing intercourse around ovulation — your fertile window is key. Use ovulation strips or a tracker to help.
• Having regular sex every 2–3 days during your fertile window ensures fresh, healthy sperm.
• Using sperm-safe lubricant — avoid those that contain ingredients harmful to sperm (like glycerin or parabens).
• Reducing stress and staying emotionally connected — your mental wellbeing impacts your cycle more than you might think.
• Focusing on intimacy instead of performance — making TTC feel like a shared, joyful experience can ease the pressure.

👉 Curious about when to test? Read Is It Too Early to Test?

What About Lying Down After Sex?

Some couples find comfort in lying down for 10–15 minutes after sex. While this might help keep sperm pooled near the cervix, there’s no solid evidence that it increases pregnancy rates.

However, if it helps you relax and feel more in control, it certainly won’t hurt. TTC is as much emotional as it is physical, and building habits that feel calming and supportive is always a win.

Final Reassurance

There’s no magic position, no secret trick. If you’re trying to conceive, the most powerful tools are good timing, open communication, and self-compassion.

If this wasn’t your month, don’t lose hope. You are not alone — and your path to pregnancy is unfolding in its own perfect time.

💗 Here at Maia Baby, we’re walking with you — every hopeful, vulnerable, beautiful step of the way.

Explore More from Maia Baby

Looking to boost your chances naturally? These helpful guides go hand-in-hand with what you’ve just read:

• How Long Can Sperm Survive in the Vagina — Learn how cervical mucus affects survival time
• Sperm Leakage After Insemination — What’s normal, and what it really means for conception
• Best Time to Inseminate for Conception — Understand when ovulation happens and how to time it right